A relationship can be abusive in many ways, but ultimately, abuse boils down to power and control. A relationship is abusive when one partner uses any type of violence, whether it is physical, sexual, emotional, economic, or psychological, to influence or control the other partner.   While it is more common for women to be the victims of relationship abuse, men can also experience abuse. Abuse occurs just as commonly in LGBTQ relationships as in heterosexual relationships.  If you believe you are in an abusive relationship, seek immediate help, such as by calling the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE. You can also learn how to identify the warning signs of an abusive relationship.
At the start of any relationship, we all tend to blind ourselves to the faults and inconsistencies of the new partner. This is natural. We see them through rose-tinted spectacles. We find them attractive perhaps because they seem to need us so much or because they are sexy or very rapidly express undying love or fulfil a pattern of neglect and abuse that we have been 'trained' to feel familiar with by previous experiences. Perhaps all the attention - even jealousy - is flattering. This is normal, but the first step of getting out of an abusive relationship is seeing it for what it is. There may be reasons, but there are no excuses for your partner treating you like dirt or cynically manipulating you.
Does your partner … look at you or act in ways that scare you? Check! … make all the decisions? Check! … threaten to commit suicide? Check!Don’t feel righteous just yet, Team Jacob, as kar3ning points out that the werewolves are hardly ideal mates themselves. In “New Moon,” we’re introduced to a werewolf named Sam and his live-in girlfriend, “who he f**king mauled once, because she provoked him into turning into a werewolf … Domestic violence is not romantic, and I don’t care how much you say she started it, you don’t hit your girlfriend. EVER.”